We humans are so wired to fear everything GOOD.
I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but think about it. There’s this ridiculous programming in our heads that tells us we have to be “worthy” to have the “good things,” and when we finally have those “good things” we then need to work harder to “keep those good things.” And still we doubt that we even deserve them!
There’s a part of us that feels ashamed when we’re rewarded for something that comes easily to us, and it becomes a vicious cycle of shame and reward as we work ourselves into burnout.
What we may not realize, however, is that this cycle is based in that fear of having good things. The shame/reward cycle keeps us solidly on the ground when what we really want is to fly… but we’re afraid of everything that comes with flight:
Where will we land?
What if we fall?
What if we get caught in a storm?
So we never even try.
I see this happen all the time in business, and it breaks my heart. Brilliant entrepreneurs keep playing small and hiding their light because they’re afraid of what might happen if they get big! They fall prey to doubts and worries. They stay inside their comfort zones. And so they never achieve the success they truly desire.
Here are three key “fears of flight” when it comes to growing in business.
1. Fear of Overwhelm
You might think that when you become more successful, you will be more stressed. You worry that there will be too much work to do, too many people to engage with, and more tasks than you can handle.
Listen– success has nothing to do with stress. The more successful you become, the easier it will be for you to say NO to the things that bring you stress… because you won’t feel the need to say YES out of desperation.
The CEO Mindset knows the value of things like delegation and automation. Yes, there will be more to do, but it doesn’t have to be YOU doing it! If you don’t know where to start, you can simply batch-prep your written content (Facebook posts, newsletters, blogs, etc) and schedule them ahead of time. Or consider hiring a VA (virtual assistant) to help you with things like your mailing list, your social media presence, or even creating digital courses.
2. Fear of No Privacy
Do you equate fame and success with lack of privacy? Are you afraid that every action you take will be scrutinized? You might fear being in the spotlight because all eyes are on you… and you don’t want to mess up.
Listen– being successful allows for better discernment. Knowing that you’re being watched or even idolized means you likely have an increased self-awareness, and will take more care in choosing your actions.
And if you slip up? Own it. You’ve got to be okay with not being perfect, because you’re human just like the rest of us. The CEO Mindset understands the importance of showing up just as you are, (perceived) imperfections and all. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s how you handle them afterward that matters most.
3. Fear of Money Mismanagement
Are you worried that once you’re successful, people are going to hit you up for money? Are you worried that you wouldn’t know how to handle more profitability?
Listen– you don’t need to do it alone. Just like you can ask for help when your to-do list starts getting too long and stressing you out, you can do the same thing about money.
We all have our own areas of expertise. Just because money might not be yours doesn’t mean you can’t handle it. One of the biggest aspects of the CEO mindset is about being receptive to support, so find yourself a financial advisor to ease your fears, or a group where you can feel safe to ask questions.
In the end, it really just comes down to this:
STOP overcomplicating things.
And START redefining what successful entrepreneurship means to you.
You know you’re ready to fly, so trust your wings to carry you!
You’ll find somewhere to land when you’re ready.
You’ll figure out the storm if and when it comes.
And my friend, you know what else?
You will SOAR.
Just remember that you absolutely deserve all those “good things” that you’ve been desiring. You don’t have to prove yourself in order to be worthy of them, and you don’t need to keep burning yourself out to get them.
Which of these three fears do you need to overcome the most?
What questions do you have about the CEO mindset?
Are you ready to uplevel your business?
Let me know below!
P.S. If you’re looking for some insight on your own CEO Mindset, take my CQ (CEO Quotient) Quiz!